When one loses a friend.

For five years I have shared countless memories doing the most fun things,
but also dealing with the worst with my friend.

Now I've lost that friend, gone from my life forever.

I first met him whilst working at a fast food outlet and soon discovered we were best of friends.
We messed around ridiculous amounts at work, sometimes over the line. But even he as a manager of the place, He'd still joke around with me. but,

Now I've lost that friend, gone from my life forever.

We continued being friends even after I left that job and I would quite regularly visit his place for the weekend to nerd it up and play games the whole time.
Even when I was dead broke he would gladly shell out for a burger, without hesitation as a good friend would, but

Now I've lost that friend, gone from my life forever.

After I came back from an overseas trip I moved in with him, no signing of lease or anything just jumped into it and had an absolute blast.
Joke around until stupid hours of the next day, and this time it was he who was short of funds, so of course as a friend I helped him out.

But then it happened. I lost my friend, gone from my life. The thing is, there was no car crash, no medical reason
or no attack made on him. I lost my friend, to a girl.

One month is all it took for her to move in and set the seeds in his mind. She didn't like me. So what did HE do?

He killed my friend. Asked me to move out after 5 years of knowing him, because his girlfriend of 1 month didn't approve of me.

That's all it took, and I ask my self "Could he have been that great of a friend?". That question will take a while to answer, but one thing I do know, is that,

I've lost that friend, and the one who took him from me, was himself.

Kingsley Blucher

Why is the world so hostile?

It seems that in today's day and age the general public is mostly hostile to you, the reader. Am I correct in assuming so? If not the hat's off to you, because you may have found the secret to making our world the ideal world.

I'm talking about the average encounter with a stranger. Most of the time you wouldnt expect any sort of help from just someone walking down the street right? Take my job for example. I work at a very popular fast food chain. On a daily basis I deal with quite a number of angry and irrate customers. As my coworkers can back me up, we deal with a large number of people who simply want to complain, and it's clear to see why so many of my coworkers have crappy days because of it. Why are these customers so annoyed and pissed off? Is our service that bad? Maybe it's the food? Or maybe they have some solid reason. Or maybe they have jobs just like us, and deal with customers just as irrate as themselves?

I've come to find what my parents always tried so hard to teach me. Feelings aren't from some magical place in fairy land, they are your perception of your life. How you see things changes your feelings. I'm not saying that you should be glad that someone has just given you a mouthful of what they think of you and a company you just work for, It's quite the opposite. Instead of foccussing on all the crappy things in your day that everyone has to deal with, look at the good things that happen.

Look at the good moments in your day and you will have a superb time. This won't work until you yourself truly believe, and trust me, it's hard as fuck. You really have to try and sometimes you think to yourself, why bother. The reason to try this? Because if we don't atleast try to have a better time in our everyday life, then we are doomed to the same vicious cycle for many years to come.

Thanks for reading and best of luck!

The Ideal State

It seems to me that the majority of the human race is continously striving to reach that ideal state of being, that place where an individual has accomplished all in life and has not a worry in the world. Carl Rogers and Abraham Maslow determined the natural tendency innate within humans to reach Self-Actualization in the 70's. A theory which still influences much of psychology today - but is it really possible for an individual to reach such a state of mind where there are no worries, grievences and obstacles stacking ones way?

Let it be clear that i'm talking about reaching a certain state of mind where one is at peace with the world and him/herself. I am arguing that no matter how hard one might try, no matter how much work you do in trying to achieve this state and no matter what means you use to attain this goal - it will not and cannot happen. The proposition will turn to Buddhism and the affects of external environment.

Buddhism - boradly speaking for the purpose of this conversational blog - incorporates as one of it's main goals the ability to eradicate cravings and personal needs in order to reduce suffering and render the efects of suffering on rebirth and reincarnation. Essentially reaching an ideal state of being - something to which i think is unattainable through any measures - including religion.

We as humans have an innate desire, an innate passion which is goal-directed. We constantly feel the need to acquire a certain something - even if we do not know what that is. Before someone turns to Buddhism they have already craved to be given guidance in their lives and in my opinion in doing so, Buddhism only feeds that insatiable desire for a quest and knowledge of one's own existence. Buddhism then asserts that it is now to break down those innate desires for objects that the person has within them - and does so to eliminate suffering.

However, i see Buddhism as not breaking down those cravings, but merely hindering them, obstructing them and obscuring them from the individual's reality. For if one does not see what they can have one will not crave for it, desire for it and work towards it. It would seem to me that Buddhism rather than reflecting a true ideal state is conversly a distraction from the external world of pressures and reality that we all live in.

The First Post

Welcome to "Position Neutral"!

This is a blog where nothing is found neutral and everything is contested, we are open to new authors who wish to give their opinions or offer a topic up for discussion at any time, or feel free to leave comments about the posts made.

This is essentially a blog for discussion on philosophical, existential, psychological or any other distant thought that may enter one's head as we course through our days.

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